![]() ![]() So the question becomes: Can I make friends with discomfort? Can I learn to be comfortable with what makes me squirm – build up antibodies to the “discomfort virus”, so to speak, and learn to be ok with it as just another sensation arising within me? Can I learn to accept life unquestioningly, no matter what it brings? Here’s where iRest® Yoga Nidra and the practice of opposites ( Patanjali’s Pratipaksha Bhavanam) is a powerful ally. Avoidance doesn’t work – but certainly not for lack of trying.Įverything we deny, run away from or despise comes back to bite us in the end. ![]() As hard as I try to make depression leave, or wish the world would be at peace, the world is not at peace and depression is still here. I might want to take their pain or sadness away because I don’t like how this discomfort expresses within me. So we try to make our own or another’s anger, fear, grief, depression or discomfort go away. But life continually shows us that this doesn’t work. It may all seem twisted, but it’s also all a normal part of being human.Īt the heart of the matter, isn’t this at least partly because we’re uncomfortable with sensations of discomfort? Ultimately I don’t like how another’s anger makes me feel. We want to take away our own hurt, another’s hurt, or sometimes project onto our nearest and dearest so that we don’t have to feel it ourselves. We might even want that guy at the office to fail for once so we can feel better about ourselves. We want our friends to be happy if they’re depressed. And the normal human reaction to all that’s unsettling is to make it go away. Maybe it’s their grief, their hurt, their anxiety. It could even be someone’s success or happiness that makes you feel uncomfortable in some way. It might not be anger that presses your buttons, but another’s sadness, depression or negativity. And after bottling it all up, I might even find myself getting mad at the person expressing their anger because I didn’t like how it all felt. ![]() I’d go out of my way to make sure all was well in the world just to sidestep the discomfort of being with another’s anger. This made me at best a peacemaker, and at worst an avoider. I didn’t like it when someone raised their voice or showed displeasure. And that beef was simply this: I really didn’t like it. I used to be a perfectionist living life in black and white, ‘either/or’. My understanding of the depression I experienced, for instance, was to find a way to be happy. By Una Hubbard, Meditation and Yoga with Una ![]()
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